By DR. WILL LANGFORD
Years ago I heard about a college man who walked into a photography studio with a framed picture of his girlfriend to have it duplicated. The man who owned the studio was happy to help, but in order to make a duplicate of the picture, he had to remove the photograph from the frame. As he removed the photograph he discovered an inscription that read “Steve, I love you with all my heart. I love you more with each passing day. I will love you forever. I am yours for all eternity.” P.S. “If we ever break up, I want this picture back!”
You know, real commitment is a highly prized commodity these days. And if you have ever experienced the real commitment of another person then you understand how gratifying it can be. However in our culture today, commitment is taking a beating and nowhere do we see it more than in our understanding of commitment in marriage. Today our society views marriage as disposable rather than seeing it as the most profound of human relationships; so profound that it has provided a solid foundation for a thriving society here in America.
Sadly as we have watched the family erode we can see simultaneously our society suffering. According to the U.S. Census Bureau, children living in single-parent families are about five times as likely to live in poverty. There’s also a high probability they’ll drop out of school, get arrested, be involved in teen pregnancy themselves, have more mental health problems, and be less likely to be employed or in school as young adults.
Currently we are living in a time where commitment to the home, commitment to marriage is seen as no big deal, but it is a big deal. And we need to demonstrate its importance with our actions and teach the value of commitment to marriage to our children.
I think a great place to start is by remembering how God defined marriage. I am sure you have heard these verses; if not at your wedding, then perhaps the wedding of a friend. “From the beginning of creation, God made them male and female. Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together let not man separate.”
So in these verses we learn God’s expectations of marriage. Marriage is to be between one man and one woman for life. Currently 73% of those under the age of 45 see this understanding of marriage as useless and unworkable. I will grant you that it isn’t easy. Marriage takes a lot of work and sacrifice and help from God.
Statistics are showing us today that the more God is involved in your family the better prepared your family is to withstand the pressures of life. John Maxwell released these stats that are truly eye opening.
It is pretty obvious that the more God is involved in the home, the more stable the home becomes. This article is not designed to tear down those who have gone through the pain and heartache of divorce. You have had enough pain and don’t need any more hurt. Rather, my goal is to elevate marriage and encourage each of us to seek God in making our homes, our marriages stronger. Since God is the author, designer and definer of marriage… it just makes sense to consult Him.